Negative Experience at the Hive
My wedding reception was recently hosted at the Hive. I am writing this review to provide feedback to others considering the same, and to experience some sort of catharsis after an overall awful experience on what should have been a happy day. I have never felt so belittled, disregarded, and demeaned in a professional relationship.
Before I provide insight into my negative experiences, I should recognize areas where the Hive excelled. The Hive is a beautiful facility with an interesting layout that lends itself well to smaller groups hosting events. The art work is top notch, and the décor of the wedding itself was put together beautifully. They provided amazing flower arrangements. Staff members accommodated our guests with specific food restrictions, and ordered/picked up 2 meals from a local restaurant. This was going above and beyond as I expected needing to ask a family member to do this. The Hive hired an exceptional bartender to work the main bar. I had nothing but positive interactions with her and received good feedback from our guests. I will also say that our guests generally had a good time, enjoyed the venue, and had fun with the adult paint room. Hive members accommodated a photo booth set up with short notice (although this only required setting up a small digital camera on a tripod, a black sheet over a wall, and props I had already purchased on tables/hooks). The Hive was also good at adding small touches, such as placing blankets on the backs of chairs of outdoor guests for comfort.
I realize this review is lengthy. In this case, the length is directly proportional to the level of difficulty we had in planning the wedding with the Hive. If you do not have time to read the details of this review I will briefly sum up my experience. From the onset, there were communication issues. Complete information was not always provided; contradiction and inconsistency were instead the standard. I felt that the process was poorly organized and scattered. Major changes were proposed to our program, and contracts with the caterer as many as 5 days, and as little as 1 day before the wedding. Arrangements were not carried out as requested and agreed upon. I urge you to continue reading for more concrete evidence of these statements.
One of the first warning signs that our wedding planning process was not going smoothly occurred when there was a 2 week lapse in email communication from the individual in charge of our file. I already had some concerns with our interactions and this made me feel quite uneasy. In hindsight, I should have sought out a different venue at that time. When there was communication, I often felt that my concerns were not addressed completely. Frequently, I had multiple questions and only a few would be answered, with other important points ignored completely. The trail of communication with this person became embarrassingly sparse 3 months before our wedding with a lot left to plan.
At this point, I requested a meeting with the owner in person to discuss progress of planning (2 months before the wedding). Our meeting culminated with her reassuring me that information would be forwarded to us immediately. 6 days after our meeting, a bar menu was forwarded to me via email. This email, however, was missing many of the items on the comprehensive list of information we talked about. I emailed my contact to request the rest of the information (10 days after the meeting) and did not ever hear from her again.
Secondary to the complete loss of contact from our initial arranger, I had to email the owner approximately 6 weeks before the wedding expressing my concerns. At this point I was unsure that an event would even be thrown together. The owner was apologetic, and promptly agreed to take over our file. She did express that the original staff member “is doing the 3-5 hrs of wedding planning (per the individual packages) for 30+ brides between June-August, and I’m certain that all of the individual details of that get daunting.” While I can appreciate that this may be the case, as a paying customer, this is not my concern.
My husband and I expressed interest in speaking directly with the DJ who would be working our event. I requested this information via email on February 27, 2018. Over 2 months later, on May 3, 2018, I received another email indicating that we would be put “in contact” with the DJ soon. On May 27, (1.5 weeks before the wedding), after continuing to inquire about contacting the DJ we were told via email that “we generally don’t connect couple’s directly with DJ’s.” I was so frustrated with this response and the inconsistent information that had been provided by the same person. I felt that we were misled over the span of 3 months about something so simple. I do not feel that this was a huge deal, but it is an excellent example of just one of the many times we were provided with inconsistent, contradictory, and untimely information.
On May 3, 2018, I asked for a diagram of seating arrangements for the wedding. I assumed this should be something standardized at a venue that hosts weddings frequently (e.g. I thought they would have a drawing on file). This information was not shared until nearly 3 weeks later (May 21, 2018) after continuing to request it, and was provided as a hand drawn diagram. I promptly worked on the table arrangements and emailed them back the same day. I am sad to say that on the day of the wedding the tables were set up incorrectly. Important people in our lives (e.g. parents, siblings) were seated with their backs facing our table and the “drawing” I received was not exactly representative of how the tables fit into the space.
One day before the wedding, the Hive suggested to move our dinner “earlier” (via email) because the weather might not hold up into the dinner hour (half of our guests were sitting outside, under a sheltered and heated Pergola). This dumbfounded me. I cannot comprehend moving a dinner start time a day before a wedding. It would have been a logistical nightmare to organize our guests and change the catering with that short of notice. I was very clear in an email response that we were firm on the dinner start time. Despite this, our caterer reported that he had been requested to show up 1 hour earlier than initially agreed upon because guests would be there at that time. The caterer, who was coming with prime rib prepared off site, showed up 1 hour early to the event. I believe this effected the quality of the meat. In the end, the weather held up fine and the focus on moving the dinner was unwarranted.
The caterer also informed me 5 days before the wedding that the Hive was attempting to change the initial agreement he had with them. A fee had been worked into the catering contract for the Hive to hire someone to clear the dishes from the dinner service. He indicated they may not honor this, and he would be short one staff member for our service. Of note, I received a rather unprofessional email regarding this where the Hive had the audacity to suggest that I had not paid for this service. The Hive said (as per an email) “because I brought someone extra in (who you didn’t pay for), we were able to clear and do the changeover efficiently.” I immediately responded to this email indicating that I paid a fee for this service to the caterer, who was supposed to forward it to the Hive, as per their initial arrangement. I received this response back “As of this morning, I had no intention of billing him anything, as my extra person only came in for 1.5 hrs and it didn’t seem worth revisiting.” There is absolutely no sense in choosing not to accept reimbursement for a service and then accusing your customer of not paying for it.
When I arrived at the reception I was immediately approached by guests indicating that they needed exact change to take advantage of the toonie bar. There was no float on hand for cocktail hour. I consider this especially irritating as my husband explicitly asked earlier in the day whether we needed to provide a float or not. We needed to flag down a Hive staff member to retrieve the float that was not at the bar and ready to go, but sat waiting in the art gallery below. Again, this is not the biggest deal on its own, but in the context of the overall experience it became an issue for us.
The Hive also decided to completely change the domestic bar menu we had requested. Our guests prefer domestic beer like Canadian, Coors etc. When this was brought up as an issue, this is the email response I received “I bought what I thought were better beers than on our list to do something nice, but apparently, that was wrong… I am sorry.” The blatant passive aggressiveness of this written statement negates the feeble and disingenuous apology at the end of the sentence. Instances like this made me feel like a second-class citizen approached with judgement. At the end of the day, a good business person follows a “customer first” approach, which should include respecting basic requests such as a bar menu. It is not rocket science to follow simple instruction. Additionally, several guests complained that the beer was warm towards the end of the evening.
We received flack for our “special requests” and for the Hive not selling enough and/or charging too little for them. The email quotation for that is as follows “I did have all of your special requests on hand, to a fault. No one touched 2 40oz Crown Royals that I will be stuck with into eternity. We supplied over 100 Miller Lite, which cost far more than any beer on our upscale menu, for $5 each.” I would like to note that I did not ever suggest the Hive supply a certain amount or charge a certain amount for any of the special liquor requests. If I am a business owner, and I choose to sell something for less than it is worth, the onus is on me for bad mathematics. There is no fault on the people buying the product for any loss in profit. In addition, the Hive mentioned “I wandered around Canmore searching for a bottle of Patron for your friends when they asked.” Again, this is not my issue. This was not cleared by me. Neither my husband nor myself knew that this occurred until after the wedding day when we were informed over email.
I am not sure whether the Hive was suited to contain the 74 guests that attended our wedding (even though they advertise a 100-person capacity). The general set up was very tight- guests had to sidle past other chairs to get by. I even recall someone rubbing their back against the wall whilst sidling (like a cat/dog) past tables to reach the microphone stand for a speech. Later in the evening, a door was opened on the dancefloor by a staff member, resulting in a split eyebrow for one of the guests. This is clearly hazardous and should not be in use during an event where the dance floor is operational. Imagine your mother hustling over to you on your wedding day asking, “Do you think your MC needs stitches?” Thankfully, the gash, although profusely bleeding, was rather small, and I could approximate its edges with steri-strips that one of my guests had on hand. If we didn’t have our own supplies, he would have been left with a large scar on his eyebrow and likely sparse hair growth after it healed. While I was mending my MC, no attempt was made to provide me with first aid supplies (e.g. something to clean his wound with, a bandage, etc.). My MC indicated that staff members only seemed to relax once he confirmed he would not pursue legal action. In the end, no harm was done, but that event was a near miss that had the potential to cause permanent injury and could have been a lot worse.
Half of our guests sat outside, which was ok and we agreed to. It did make for an awkward and segregated session of speeches. The microphone was connected to the sound system that reached the patio, so guests could hear the speeches but could not interact with the speaker or hear anything else being said that wasn’t directly on the mic. An alternative would have been to seat everyone inside in a different style, but it still would have been just a plain weird set up where 74 people cannot see/interact well for a traditional wedding speech segment.
The piece de resistance of the entire weekend occurred the day after the wedding. My husband and I arrived to collect our items and settle our bill (note this was prearranged over email, as the contract did not indicate when we needed to clear our items). We packed some of our boxes into our vehicle outside of the back entrance. We were talking with 4 other family members when suddenly a torrential downpour of water soaked my father in law from head to toe. We were all rather stunned. My husband, already on edge and rightfully irritated, exploded on the individual responsible, who had been clearing an awning of water and had either not checked at all, or not completed an even mildly thorough job of checking whether people were standing below. This individual was rather ignorant in how he chose to deal with the situation, causing my husband to unfortunately become verbally aggressive and scream expletives at him. Given the long and rocky history we had with the Hive, he marched into the Hive and tore a strip off the owner. I want to be clear that I do not condone the way my husband dealt with the situation. In no circumstance is it ok to verbally abuse another person. However, both parties could have improved their responses and behaviors. A fall out email communication from the owner of the Hive after the situation occurred is as follows:
“First, I’d like to say that I enjoyed having you here last night. Your wedding was refreshingly casual and folks were a lot of fun.
Genuine feedback given in the spirit of both resolving a problem, or even negotiating a ‘deal’ after the fact is something that I can accept graciously and openly. But.....screaming ‘you fucking retard’ repeatedly at a stranger for making an innocent mistake is outside the boundaries of acceptable feedback. When ____ came in the back of the Gallery screaming at me about me fucking husband, my staff member locked the front door and called the RCMP. ___ had no idea that ____wasn’t a crazy person off the street who was about to do harm. I did not file a complaint, but should have.”
Once again, I to, was rather appalled at my husband’s outburst. However, not once in this situation did any staff member seem to have compassion for their error and ask the 70-year-old man that was completely saturated with water whether he was ok or needed a towel. No one directly apologized to him. Further, RCMP have better things to do than attend a call for service on an incident that a business has created for themselves. A rightfully irate customer is not a crazy person off the street. They could have diffused the situation by offering a genuine apology, offering to have the clothing cleaned, or even asking if he was okay. In reading the Hive’s email communication afterwards, I somehow got the impression that the Hive had been victimized (due to my husband's outburst) more than the geriatric man who had been soaked by a staff member. That situation could have been diffused so much better than it was with improved customer service and may not have resulted in a behavioral outburst (again, not condoning said outburst).
After leaving the Hive, thinking we had everything in order, we remembered that they had not rolled up a canvas from the paint room for us. Given the volatile interaction that just occurred we debated not going back for it. However, we decided against this as it held some precious memories of our wedding day. We called the gallery to ask if it was still there. Rather than receive a call back, an email was sent reporting the following (amongst other things):
“I just got a message that you wanted the canvas from last night.
I will roll it and leave it in the parking lot within the hour. Please do not come back to the Gallery. If there is anything further that you require, contact by email only.”
Our canvas was left as stated, in the parking lot (where things like dumpsters are located and apparently, water is indiscriminately dumped). It was raining that day, but how fortunate for us that the Hive placed our priceless canvas outside, in a parking lot, under something that prevented water damage. I understand not wanting to see us or communicate on the phone or in person given the heat of the situation. However, someone removed from the event could have easily picked the canvas up from inside, such as another family member or friend. I would also like to point out that like so many other things, the canvas was not ready for us to pick up in the morning, which it arguably should have been.
There is even more feedback I could leave about this place but I won’t continue writing a novel. My main motivation for writing this is to stand up for myself. I felt walked all over, and somehow ashamed after this process had commenced. I felt as though things that were not my concern, and were natural, expected byproducts of doing business, were placed upon me or thrown in my face as something I should be grateful for. I tried many times to resolve issues as they arose and was often met with lengthy, extraneous rebuttals. I am truly saddened by our experience at the Hive.