How to Create the Ultimate Groomsman Squad
Trying to decide who to include in your group of groomsmen? Follow this advice before calling all your pals.
Choosing your groomsmen can be tough. You definitely don’t want to disappoint any of your best buds, but, realistically, not everyone can stand by your side on your big day. If you’re struggling with who to put in your groomsman squad, we’ve got a bit of advice for you.
Here’s how to create the ultimate groomsman squad.
Numbers are just numbers
Does your partner have eight friends in their squad? While it may be tempting to match that number - we all love symmetry - you really don’t have to. This isn’t a numbers game, it’s a feelings game, so focus on who you want by your side, not what’s happening across the aisle. If you end up with a few more or less in your party, it’s really no biggie.
It doesn’t have to be a boys club
Your tree house may have said “no girls allowed” when you were a child, but it’s time to let that philosophy go. Mixing some ladies in with your men is A-OK, especially if they’re your closest friends.
Stick to best friends, leave the acquaintances
Unfortunately, you’re probably going to have to let a few people down, especially if you’re a social butterfly with heaps of friends. It’s going to be tough, but try to narrow down your list of candidates to the best of the best. Golden rule: if you only see them at parties once in awhile or haven’t talked in a few months, they can probably be seated in the audience.
Use your current relationships to guide you
In the wise, wise words of Edna Mode, “never look back darling, it distracts from the now”. Don’t take a walk down memory lane when choosing your groomsmen, focus on what’s happening in your life ATM. If you haven’t seen your childhood BFF in years, they don’t necessarily need to be by your side.
Pick people who are fans of your relationship
If you’ve got a pal who absolutely hates your fiancé(e) or can’t stand the idea of you getting hitched, you may want to boot them from your roster. The last thing you want on your big day is someone bringing you down. You want a groomsman squad of real friends, not frenemies.
You don’t actually need a best man
Don’t have a best friend or brother to helm your group of guys? NBD. If all your friends share an equal part of your heart (aww), give everyone the same status. Yes, one of them may have to come forward and sign your marriage license as a witness, but you don’t need it to be a best man.
Make sure they want to be there
If one of your buds is uninterested in the idea of being a groomsman, take it as a sign and let them sit with the rest of your friends and family. You want people who are pumped to be around you on your big day, not people who are indifferent or apathetic about it all.
Get ‘em together
Once you’ve perfected your squad, it’s time to get them mixing and mingling. Invite all your groomsmen out to a bar, a game or some other bonding activity to get the festivities started!
