What NOT to Do If You’re in the Wedding Party
Congratulations! You’re part of the bride and grooms inner circle. Here are a few things to skip leading up to and on the big day.
When you’ve made it into the wedding party you’ve also been officially inducted into the bestie hall of fame. If you want to keep that spot, you’ve got to put in a little more effort than just showing up. Follow these rules of what not to do and you’ll be one kickass wedding party member.
Here’s what not to do if you’re in the wedding party.
Leave the couple to their own devices
Even if you don’t have a core position, like the maid of honour or best man, you should still be willing to lend a hand. Whether the happy couple needs a bit of pre-wedding help wrapping up their favours or want someone to do a few last minute errands like changing up the seating plan, you should be there at the ready. This will help keep the couple’s stress levels low before they make their way to the altar.
Be judgemental
Seriously, there is no room for Judgemental Judys in the wedding party. This doesn’t mean you can’t offer up opinions, but don’t be too critical, especially if you already know you have different tastes. If your friends’ have chosen to host a rustic-chic wedding, but mason jars and barns just aren’t your jam, keep it to yourself. This is their big day, not yours.
Complain
Nobody likes a complainer. Maybe you don’t like your bridesmaids dress? Perhaps you shelled out a bit too much money for the shoes you were asked to buy? Keep your lips sealed. Be upfront about your budget at the get-go, spend wisely and everything should work out fine.
Keep to yourself
Weddings can be tough for introverts, but you don’t want to seem cold to the rest of the group. Moping around in a corner can put a damper on the big day, so make an effort to mix and mingle with the bridesmaids, groomsmen and the bride and groom’s families. Maybe you’ll even make a few new friends along the way.
Be the centre of attention
This is the happy couples’ big day, so the spotlight should be on them. Let them bask in the compliments and rest happy knowing you’ll get to do the same on your big day.
Hit the bar too hard
It’s easy to think of a wedding as one big party, but this is not the time to do keg stands or whip out a beer funnel. That’s not to say you can’t have a good time - feel free to indulge in some champagne and have a cocktail or two for some liquid courage on the dance floor, just don’t go overboard. You don’t want to wake up to a ton of embarrassing snapchats and angry texts from the bride.
Leave the party early
Weddings can be exhausting, so you may be tempted to crawl back to your hotel room and hit the hay when midnight strikes. But hold on a sec, Cinderella, as a member of the wedding party it’s your duty to stick around until the bitter end - and maybe even hit up the after party. Make sure you have your schedule cleared for the following day so that you can get a little R&R.
